How can this help?

I was reading BBC news, most of the times I only search for 'Nigeria' and look at the headlines. And sometimes I find something interesting to read. I try to follow what happens there. Like a month ago I found an interesting headline. Mass Nigeria wedding aims to tackle divorce rate. My first response was "What?" The text under the headline was "One hundred couples have been married in a mass wedding in Nigeria's second city, Kano."

I just had to click on it! The reason I do not post it as I write it is that I am already facing so many negative opinions about me wanting to travel to Nigeria. I choose to set the blog so late that I should already be home from Nigeria when this is posted.

If I want to travel to Nigeria that is MY decision! I KNOW it is not safe! I KNOW there are a million other locations I could visit and a MILLION other men I could date!

It's just that I do not want to date a million other guys. And it is not his fault that he is born in a country that is not safe. And it is NOT HIS FAULT that I want to visit his country! I have wanted to go to Africa since before my teens. The countries has changed. First I wanted to go to Zaire or Kongo, I actually don't remember which, I liked both (don't ask the reason...that one I don't remember....I think it had something to do with rainforest...). Later I wanted to go to Egypt. When I was dating a man from Algeria I wanted to go to Algeria! I have also wanted to visit Morocco, but that is only because it would have been simple to take a ferry from Spain to Morocco....but then again, I never went to Spain. Then I found a friend from Gambia, and I do still want to visit Gambia! I met a man from Ghana also, and I thought it would have been nice to visit Ghana! He is one out of two person I have blocked! So he wasn't the best person to meet. But I can not blame his country for that. Even though I can blame his culture, because he is blocked because of a cultural collision....I understand that. But I can not bring myself to unblock him, because he scared me so bad. I have also wanted to go to Cape Town. That is in South Africa. Oh my god! Now I remember I have also wanted to go to some other countries! Never mind...Madagascar would also have been nice to visit.

So my conclusion is. There is no way to keep me from going to Africa. That I want to go to Nigeria is because I want to visit the country of my Honey. But even if we broke up. I would still go there! I have made up my mind! If people want to see me single, or if people want to see me dating a person from Finland och Sweden. Don't worry! I will still go to Nigeria! So why don't let me date the boy I want. Not even he can keep me from coming! He cares about me, he don't want me to be in a country that is not safe.

My blog was supposed to be about: How can mass marriage help? Did these people actually have a choice or are they just brought together by force? If so, how can it lead to helping the children have a safe environment to grow up in? Are people happy with being together with a wife/husband somebody else chose? If it would happen here, both the man and the woman would be out having other affairs on the side, leaving the home to be anything but a safe environment. I do not mean that it would be a dangerous place to grow up in, but it would be a place where it wouldn't feel safe. There would be no consistence.

Instead it became a blog about: How can it help for me to change boyfriend? I will never change anyway! I have for so long wanted to go to Africa! That is a dream that will not go away even though I change to a boyfriend of your choice. Would I be happy if I am not the one that got to choose who to live with? I live in a country where we have a freedom to choose. What we want to study, what we want to wear, who we want to marry, we have the right to speak our mind.

So why do you have the right to speak your mind? When it means that I don't have the right to choose whit who I want to be in a relationship with?

Is it possible to choose who you love?